It is only natural from the moment you find out that you are pregnant that your head fills up with a million questions that usually stay there throughout those nine months. If you manage to answer some of the questions, you automatically think of new ones and this cycle just never ends until the baby pops out.
The questions usually revolve around physically preparing for the arrival of the baby. Rarely do we think about how to emotionally prepare ourselves for the birth of the little one.
As one of the last in my group of friends to get pregnant, I was fortunate to learn from all their pregnancies. One of these super mummies told me about a book she read while she was pregnant with her firstborn. This book was about the cleansing of a chakra each month during the nine months. The final month was all about letting go and leaving everything to the universe.
This may seem a little out there for some of you and I respect that but this intrigued me immensely as I had watched an episode on Oprah about this emotional baggage from the mother that does transfer to the fetus, in vitro. So I borrowed the book and read a couple of chapters and kind of forgot about it but in the mean time I met up with another friend for lunch and learned about Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).
Please allow me to digress a little bit, it took awhile for me to get pregnant so while I was getting all stressed out and angry with the world, I went for a couple of reiki sessions to help me get rid of all this negative energy and make room for positive energy and I don’t know if it did work or not but I got pregnant a month later. So I would say that the universe had been nudging me in this ‘alternate’ healing direction from the start.
Back to NLP, what it actually does is remove the foundation blocks of four emotions: Anger, Fear, Sadness and Envy. When these blocks are removed you tend to be able to control your feelings a lot more and not ‘lose it’ every time you find yourself in a little situation.
If you were to ask me whether it worked, or how fast did I see results or one of those ‘tangible’ questions, I wouldn’t know how to answer you. But it has been almost 14 months since the twins were born and there has been A LOT of stress. But I manage to come out of it pretty quickly (I would like to think so) and things have been working out for me in a really good way.
I’m not saying that you need to sign up for NLP sessions but while you are pregnant or trying to get pregnant, it wouldn’t hurt to try to come to terms with your past, reconcile relationships with your parents and let go of emotions that may not be the most beneficial to your babies emotional development.
After all, we do so much to ensure that our children get the ultimate best start in life, what is one more thing that is so detrimental in our lives.
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January Low, recent mother of twins, takes each day as it comes – because no parenting book could have prepared her for this!
