Familial Duty, Filial Piety, Respect, Family Honour
These are phrases and words that are all too familiar to us in Asian countries. Cultural practices and traditions passed down from generation to generation are something most Asian cultures are proud of, alongside the intergenerational bonds that unite family members. Respect for elders, adherence to tradition, and collective decision-making are deeply rooted in the fabric of our societies. However, as the younger generation embraces modernity, globalisation, and individualism, tensions can arise as cultural norms clash with contemporary lifestyles.
The Generation Gap
In today’s rapidly changing world, the generation gap between parents and their offspring has increasingly widened, often leading to misunderstandings, communication breakdowns, and fractured family relations.
For many of us born in the 1980s, we have become the sandwich generation trapped between the now and future influenced by our children; but we still have fresh memories of growing up without smartphones or gadgets, and playing outdoors. Some of us end up being the mediator between our parents’ generation, whom we care for while raising children in the 4th Industrial Revolution. While we get that the generation gap is increasing as time passes by, how do we then teach our children to embrace their individuality, and yet, keep cultural practices alive in the family? There must be some kind of middle ground.
Here are some strategies for parents to foster increased understanding and harmony across generations:
1. Respect for Tradition and Innovation
Embrace the richness of tradition, while remaining open to innovation and change. Help children to understand the cultural significance behind customs, rituals, and familial practices, while also recognising the value of exploring new ideas and ways of life.
This could be an excellent bonding opportunity for grandparents to bond with their grandchildren. Encourage the older generation to explain the beautiful traditions to the young ones. Read our previous article for more tips on nurturing the grandparent-grandchild relationship.
2. Open Communication
Cultivate an environment where open and honest communication is encouraged. Create opportunities for dialogue, where both parents and children can express their perspectives, concerns, and aspirations. Listen actively and without judgment, acknowledging the validity of each other’s experiences.
Nevertheless, the exchange must always be respectful. While there may be disagreements along the way, always check yourselves to maintain respect and decorum with one’s elders.
3. Empathy and Understanding
Recognise that generational differences stem from unique historical, social, and technological contexts. Empathise with the challenges faced by younger generations, such as navigating societal expectations, educational pressures, and career aspirations.
Similarly, encourage children to appreciate the sacrifices and wisdom of previous generations. Patience also goes a long way. It is also crucial to exercise patience with older family members, who may be less familiar with the fast-paced world of technology.
4. Bridge-building Activities
Engage in activities that promote intergenerational bonding and mutual understanding. Cook traditional meals together, share stories of family history and heritage, or participate in cultural events and celebrations. These shared experiences can create lasting memories and strengthen familial ties.
Ensure the activity involves everyone’s interest too. Making TikToks or Reels from a traditional cooking activity is something the younger ones would appreciate!
5. Embrace Diversity
Asian cultures are diverse and heterogeneous, encompassing a myriad of traditions, languages, and beliefs. Embrace this diversity within your own family, and encourage children to explore their heritage, while remaining respectful of other cultural perspectives. Diversity is the rich tapestry upon which Asian cultures are built on. There is still space in today’s world for everyone, in spite of differing interests and capabilities.
6. Lead by Example
As parents, lead by example through your actions and words. Demonstrate the values of compassion, integrity, and resilience in your daily interactions with family members. Show willingness to learn from each other, and to adapt to changing circumstances with grace and humility.
Show the younger generation the importance of gaining insights of wisdom from the older generation by also emphasising to the older ones, how important it is for us to learn from the young too.
7. Seek Support and Guidance
Building bridges across generations can be challenging, and it’s okay to seek support and guidance along the way. Connect with other parents, elders, or community resources who can offer wisdom, perspective, and encouragement.
By nurturing mutual respect, understanding, and appreciation for both tradition and innovation, parents can play a pivotal role in bridging the generation gap in Asian cultures. Through patience, empathy, and a commitment to fostering meaningful connections, families can weave a tapestry of harmony that transcends generational divides, enriching the fabric of cultural heritage for generations to come.
After all, isn’t our Asian culture built on that very fabric of love and understanding?
By Desiree Kaur
Desiree Kaur was in PR for over 8-years until she found her true calling in the education line. After her son was diagnosed with autism, she decided to pursue her Masters in Special Education. She enjoys writing and advocates inclusion for children of all abilities in every little way possible.
